Do you or your spouse have some characteristics of a Narcissist or are you controlling and very performance orientated? We should talk , you can lose so much. I have been a licensed Therapist in Idaho since 1993 with now a few years of professional work experience. Mostly, though I will claim that most of my experience is just simply navigating through life. Proverbs 16:9 says A man’s (or woman’s) heart plans his/her way, but the Lord directs his/her steps.